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A mentalist is someone who uses their mental acuity to make suggestions or hypnotize someone. Mentalists are also a master manipulator of thoughts and behaviour.
Posted on 9:04 PM

How Men Flirt

By Ariff at 9:04 PM

Ok...it seems I received some complaints that its hard to understand how men flirt. (Clairy.. if you still don't understand after this...I'll show you how my self ok). Ok how does a man flirt? How would you know if he's interested? I’m sure many women out there have spent many a sleepless night over men. There are probably many other women who would love to know the answer to the questions. If there was a course on male flirting, I’m sure there would be long wait lists of women waiting to register! Lucky for you that I'm a generous guy so to say because I'm giving 'it' to you for free.

Learning to interpret a male’s subconscious body gestures can help you determine whether you’ll be getting a second date.

Male body language will also let you know when he’s not the one. If a man doesn’t display any of the following signs, you're better off moving on to the next eligible bachelor.

He'll Attempt To Improve His Appearance When Attracted.

Just like in the animal kingdom, males tend to 'preen' when they’re interested in a female. They pay extra attention to their grooming and personal appearance. (well most of them anyway except nerds, geeks and their kind)

When a man spots an interesting female, he may automatically adjust his tie, smooth his collar or brush his shoulder and also pump himself up to look more 'manly' just like a puffer fish pumping up to attract females.

Other common signs of preening involve fixing his hair or rearranging his shirt, cuff links, and clothing. He may check his teeth or automatically touch his throat.

He wants to look as good as he can before he approaches you. Therefore ladies, you should take any of the above as a very positive sign!

Signs of Dominance!

I'm positively sure you've heard the term 'Alpha Male' before. It means a man who is a strong and smart leader.

An 'Alpha Male' always dominates the rest of the pack and gains priority in mating with females (In the animalia kingdom of course!). Men do the very same thing especially in front of you!

A flirting male may place his hands on his hips to subconsciously make himself appear bigger. This gesture says “Notice me. I’m the leader and I’m ready to get involved!”...but beware this may also be a sign of hostility...so before you make a move, please look at the context of the situation that he is in. Whether he's fighting, thinking or maybe frustrated with his exam papers.

His Eye Movement Will Tell You Everything!

Eye contact is very important when you are studying how men flirt. Men who are interested will usually hold their gaze for a little longer than usual. Like looking at you in the eyes for a period of time.

Men may also perform what is called the “triangular formulation” with their eyes. This involves looking eye to eye, then down to a woman’s mouth and chin, down to the rest of her body and back up to her eyes again. It is easy for a woman to notice this since men has a smaller peripheral vision...and therefore easy to see where his eyes are looking at!

Touching...Very Naughty!!

There is important point to notice when you watch how men flirt. When a man is interested in a woman, he will often find an excuse to touch her. He may put a hand on her shoulder or knee, tickle her playfully or pat her on the back. Some men may even feel a woman’s blouse, jacket or shoulder. This will let them have some gratification! but a pat can also mean pals right? So...wait until he does it frequently with more frequency..only then you should make a judgement.

He may come up with a ridiculous excuse such as “your blouse looked so soft I just had to feel it” or " OMG!! there's an ant on your back...don't move!"

He may even “accidentally” bump into you while casually passing by. Ladies, you know better! Take this as a very positive sign that things are going well. This is his way of showing you he is attracted to you or maybe he's just a pervert trying to 'feel' you!

Men, just make sure not to grope her or get too 'NAUGHTY' in the early stages. This may lead to a drink poured over your head and your arse being whooped....by me since you are being such an arse!

What His Hands and Feet will Tell You!

If he does, what do you think it means? That’s him trying to keep his pants from falling down? Hopefully not! This gesture is a very important sign that he’s interested in you! This is a subconscious way for a man to attract members of the opposite sex by framing that particular part of his body. No ladies, we are not referring to his wallet lol! It is focusing at his 'Ding-Dong'.

When a man flirts, he will also turn his entire body towards the woman. If his legs and feet remain pointed toward you, take this as a sign he is interested.

Ladies, if you are wondering whether the cute guy you are talking with is actually interested, take another look at how he is sitting. If his body or feet are turned away from you, you might want to look elsewhere for Prince Charming!

Men will tell you all you need to know with their body language and non-verbal gestures (not verbally of course!).

Watch for the following 'flirting' gestures :

  1. He focuses on improving his appearance
  2. He practices signs of dominance and acts like an 'alpha male'
  3. He maintains direct eye contact
  4. He touches you directly or 'accidentally' (yeah right!)
  5. He hooks his thumbs into his belt loops
  6. His body and feet are turned towards you (look at their feet in the pic below)



We all encounter people at some point who are just plain difficult (if you know me well enough...you'll understand). For whatever reason even seemingly for no reason at all...these difficult people come along and we have to find a way to deal with them. Body language that I have posted in this blog can be a very useful tool in this situation, both in terms of sending and receiving non-verbal cues. It can also help you diffuse difficult situations and perhaps even improve those difficult relationships over time.

What Is 'Difficult People'

It’s not possible to come up with a single definition of what makes a person 'difficult' because of the dynamic nature of human interactions. What comes across as difficult to you might come across as something entirely different to another person. It’s really all about perception and interpretation of the interaction between two or even more monkeyz , including the 'details' of a person (what they drink or what kind of woman/man they like...) body language and non-verbal messages.

In general, the people you will find most difficult are those whose attitudes, actions, non-verbal behaviours are in conflict with your own attitudes, actions, and non-verbal behaviours. This does not necessarily mean they are opposite, but may mean there are simply differences in delivery, intent, or life experience.

Let’s look at four common descriptions of people whom you might find difficult in some way:

  • Those who are Dominant
  • Those who are Submissive
  • Those who are Angry
  • Those who are confused and indecisive
Body language which I have posted can be a powerful tool when it comes time to interact with these kind of people.(If you forgot...I suggest you refresh your memory...)


Body Language When Interacting With Difficult People

Those who are dominant
– Avoid body language that is directly confrontational, such as facing off against each other, extended eye contact, abrupt or aggressive gestures, or crossing personal boundaries of space (be very cautious when confronting someone from the farm!). These are only likely to make the other person feel challenged and lead to more behaviour that is dominant. This does not mean you should become submissive and give in to the dominance; rather, it means you should assert your own position in a way that is calm, rational, and confident.

Those who are submissive – Avoid body language that is overtly dominant, such as crossing into their personal space, standing over them, or otherwise taking a body position that puts them in an inferior position. A better approach is to remain assertive but not overpowering, using a neutral facial expression and open body position to encourage the other person to participate more fully. If, however, the other person is using submissive behaviour in a way that’s deliberately manipulative, don’t let yourself fall into the trap of ‘rescuing’ him or her. Maintain your sense of calm and keep your non-verbal cues neutral.


Those who are angry – Avoid body language that might aggravate the other person, such as pointing, clenching your jaw or fists, shaking your head, or the like. Most of the time the best approach is to let the person express the initial burst of anger, keeping a neutral facial expression and body position. After the initial burst, paraphrase the information you heard and work through the issue, all the while maintaining a calm and confident position. However, if at any point you feel threatened or that you might be in personal danger, you should always take immediate and appropriate action to protect yourself and maintain your personal safety.


Those who are confused or indecisive – Avoid body language that appears impatient or pushy, such as extended eye contact, leaning in close, gestures that indicate frustration, and the like. These kinds of non-verbal cues are likely to create even more confusion or indecisiveness in the other person. If you truly need to conclude the interaction, try using an open body position and hand gestures to present two or three distinct choices and then ask for a decision. However, if you find yourself in a situation where the person’s confusion or indecision presents a safety risk or other potential danger to you or anyone else, take decisive action to prevent injury or harm.

Courtesy of Ariff

© Naughty Productions



Posted on 6:59 PM

Body Language : Tips for Reading 'Her'

Filed Under (,) By Ariff at 6:59 PM

In response to the previous post, I've accumulated 7 ways to read a female's body language...So guys if you have been reading my posts, this will be your favourite for sure.



Want to know what she is really thinking and feeling? How to read her body language gestures to get it right? Understanding her body language has never been made easier although it may trigger 'The Naughty Alarm' but its for your own advantage.




1: Her chest : When indulging in foreplay, a pinkish flush will colour the skin of her chest (if its exposed of course...don't go and do somrthing stupid!), this is known as a “sex flush”. This occurs as a result of changes in her blood pressure and circulation, as well as her respiration and pulse rates. This is her subtle way of telling you that you could get lucky (as in 'getting' her) if you keep on with what you are doing. Another positive sign that you are doing it right is when her breasts start to enlarge. Women’s breasts will increase by as much as 25% when they are sexually aroused...so if you are hyper-observant, you can see this. But try not to get caught!






2: Her pupils : A woman’s pupils will dilate when she is stimulated by you. Subconsciously, her body is made to want to see more of whatever is pleasing her visually. To do this, her irises have to let in more light. At this point she is also starting to look hotter to you as well, as research has shown that guys are more attracted to girls with larger pupils. A win-win situation!






3: Her eyelashes. Look her in the eyes for a minute. She should be blinking about 15 times per minute. Research has shown that the you look in her eyes, the more likely you'll get a second or third date!






4: Her fingernails : Body-focused repetitive behaviours such as nail biting and cuticle picking are strong signs of anxiety or depression in women but not as much as men. Try not to nag her to stop; this can just make it worse. Try taking her hand, gently squeeze or massage it, and then keep holding it. You should be able to feel the tension leave her hand.






5: The Hair Flick : When a woman starts playing with her hair she is sending strong sexual body language signals that she is available. Stroking her hair is a good sign, but the best of the lot is the hair flick. This is said to be the surest signal that she is sexually attracted to you.






6: Her Neck: Stroking her neck or playing with her necklace are also very strong flirting body language signs, By doing these things she is drawing attention to her breasts. Throats and necks are lover’s only zones, and if she is also arching her neck the signal is even stronger.






7: Her Mouth: When a woman starts to think sexual thoughts, she touches her mouth. Licking her lips, sucking on the straw or spoon suggestively, and sticking things in her mouth are all indicators that she could be up for it. Eating, drinking, and smoking faster are also great body language gestures indicative of erotic thoughts.




Girls...if you are reading this, please don't think that you can control it...because you can't. Neither the boys!
Adapted and modified from The Definitive Book of Body Language.
Written by your buddy Ariff with appreciation to Allan and Barbara Pease.
©Naughty Productions

Posted on 7:16 PM

Flirting Tips : For Men pt.1

Filed Under () By Ariff at 7:16 PM



Every guy needs some flirting tips whether you/we/they like it or not. You wouldn’t be looking at this post if you weren’t interested. So do yourself a favour and read it properly.


Known or Unknown


Flirting will either take place with someone you already know or with someone you’ve never met before. Both situations have their pros and cons. It’s quite common for a friendship to suddenly go sexual or naughty and it is also just as likely that you’ll meet someone at 9.00pm in a nightclub and be in bed with them by 1.00am. Sometimes people you know will start flirting to test the water and sometimes people you don’t know will flirt with you just to check that they’re still attractive(I have personally seen or heard this before) . When it comes to flirting and body language it’s a game with some very complex rules but here’s equation (again) :-

– you don’t play = you can’t win.
If you already know someone …

There are advantages and disadvantages of flirting with people that you already know. The key to the success of your flirting often depends on what the other person secretly thinks about you.... *We know this guy that has been feeling the hots for a woman since they were at school together. One day she looked over at this guy and a 'switch' flipped in her head and she started broadcasting to him. He responded and they got married a little while ago. What triggered her to suddenly find him attractive?... Well he’d just turned 35 and had decided to join one of those clubs where you do “stand-up” comedy. Turns out he was good at it. Suddenly she saw him in a whole new way.
When we already know somebody, we risk losing whatever relationship we have with that person if we switch tracks. Naturally, people are reluctant to lose what they already have.

The key to attracting and flirting with somebody that you already know is to change the way they see you. This can require dramatic action (dramatic as in being very animatic). Say you’ve been as boring and inactive like a couch potato for ten years and suddenly take up sky diving then you’ll certainly get peoples attention! A positive aspect of flirting with somebody that you already know is that you probably have established a degree of trust (read previous entry for more info) with that person. This makes your efforts seem more sincere and effortless (if you are persistent of course..)

If it’s a stranger …

On the whole we would say that it is easier to flirt with a stranger than with a friend. Strangers have to judge you on first impressions and how you project yourself. You are a blank canvass that can be painted in the colours most suitable to the occasion. In short, you have the luxury of re-inventing yourself (learn from people's history if you can). On the downside, there is probably very little trust.

* This story I recap from my friend's story...summarized of course! I'm not insane you know.

Part two will be posted soon...so hang on!


Thanks to Sarah (not real name) for letting me post your story

Written with courtesy from your buddy Ariff
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Posted on 6:19 PM

Persuade Someone In 4 Steps

Filed Under (,) By Ariff at 6:19 PM

Now there are five that you should know if you want to persuade someone. But first, of course you need to build your character first before you can persuade so I'll count it as step 1.

*Step 1 : Building Rapport

Mirror Their Body Language/Chameleon Effect(read previous entry if you don't get it)

  • Posture/Body Movement: Wait 10 seconds, and then shift your body in the same way.
  • Gestures: Use the same hand gestures they use, but only when it’s your turn to talk.
  • Facial Expressions: Match their facial expressions instantly
  • Shrugs: If they shrug, you should shrug instantly
  • Head Nods: Instantly

*Reminder: they will not pay attention to their involuntary body movements. So don't be afraid to get caught.

Match Their Voice Tonality (again if you don't understand this...please read previous entry)

  • Accents: Copy their accent(if you can) as closely as possible. You don’t want to come across as mocking them, but make an attempt as it will make a world of difference.
  • Emphasize: Usually, people emphasize certain words during a conversation so be sure to catch on quickly and do the same.
  • Pronunciation: Most people pronounce words in a certain way, (Tam-at-toe / Tom-a-toe)
  • Breathe: During the conversation, breathe like they breathe. This will create a hypnotic synchronization. (this works...please don't doubt)

Match their Rate of Speech

  • Fast: If they talk fast, then you talk fast.
  • Slow: If they talk slow, then you talk slow.

Step 2 : Ask A Question

  • Sometimes to make people talk, you have to make them open themselves up to you. The easiest way to do this is to ask them a question. As you ask questions, people will definitely spill their beans about their 'needs' and 'wants'. Also, many people do what’s called a 'Freudian Slip', which means to accidentally say something they had on their mind out loud. This can give you excellent personal information to work with.

Step 3 : Talk About Their Interest

  • If a person doesn’t trust you, there is no way they’ll buy from you. Once you hear some trigger words, use them as leverage to continue a conversation purely about their interest. For example, like if you hear that they like dogs, get into a conversation about dogs. Yes it’s that simple!

Step 4 : Get them Excited

  • Now you want to work on getting them excited. The psychology behind what you are doing here is simple. You are setting yourself up for a ‘close’ by getting them into a ‘Trusting You’ state of mind. For example, people usually don’t buy something when they don't believe in its service.

After you have done this few steps...they will not be able to resist you! I'll post a more advanced move in the future...so for now...build your relationship.

Courtesy of Ariff and Aqua Elvira( for teaching)

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Posted on 10:40 PM

FlirtingTips : Women (Advanced)

Filed Under (,) By Ariff at 10:40 PM



The Hair Tug / Glance and Look Down / Knee point





Chest Out / Show Skin A Bit / Tilt and Smile



Glance and Look Down : This is the “killer” flirting signal. You’ve made eye contact with that guy who's “scanning” and who you’d like to approach you. You give him a hint of a mischievous smile, an interested glance, and then look down (Not away). Gracely adjust your posture so that you’re pointing towards him. Slightly arch your back so you emphasize your chest. Don’t over do it or you’ll seem awkward and, dare we say it, desperate.



Three Strikes and Out : Quite often your first flirting signal won’t be enough. What’s going on in the guy’s head is this. “Oh my god, she’s interested. Is she? Did I just imagine that? Oh Hell, look at all her friends watching. I’m feeling good that she’s interested but do I actually want to do this? Did I just imagine this?....This thoughts are universal and it happens all the time.

So now you have to repeat your “look” so that he gets the message that he’s not in fantasy land. If he still does nothing then you can try a third attempt. By now (within two minutes) if he’s a confident male he should be coming over to you. If he isn’t then he probably isn’t good “mate” material. In short, where flirting is concerned – it’s three strikes and out. You’ll be better off investing your interest elsewhere. One final thought in defense of the guys is this: Girls tease and practice where as most guys are for real. Girls that reject a guy often go up in the estimation of their friends (they have high standards) whereas a guy that fails always goes down in the estimation of his friends (loser). Guys have learnt that even if all the signals are “right” they can still be rejected.



The approach : So now he’s coming over to you. Your flirting has worked! He’ll probably move slowly and look for reassurance from you. At any time he can turn away and bypass you if he feels that the “feel” isn’t right. Then you blew it. If you’re with friends then they’ll have noticed your “play” and if he turns away then you lose. As he walks over you need to increase your smile and open your posture to welcome him. Both you and he know that this is literally the first step. As he nears you it is critical that you allow him some personal space. That means adjusting your posture to exclude those around you and focus on him. That is if you want this contact to work. Woman often change their minds as a man approaches and you can reject him once he’s made contact or if he is obviously not “mate” material. If you’re a woman then trust your instincts as he approaches. Watch out for weird-walks, frozen smiles, glassy eyes and guys that keep looking at their buddies. So, if you’ve changed your mind then turn away from him before he arrives and with luck he’ll get the message and won’t even try. Reminder : This is the only time where the guy is in the negative position. So, if you really like this guy, stay onto him until he is close enough to talk.


The Contact : So now you’ve made contact and you’ve decided that he’s safe and you like him enough to explore this further. He’s clearly shown his interest in you by coming over but you still need to continue radiating plenty of female flirting signals or he may lose interest and start “scanning” again. If you are genuinely attracted to the guy then many of these may come naturally. However, for lots of people the act of flirting or projecting body language sex signals does not come easily. This is something of a mystery but is true. He’s going to want to see some of the following:







  1. The Hair Tug



  2. The Body+ Knee Point



  3. The Shoe Dangle



  4. The Neck Stroke



  5. The Tilt and Smile
See Pics Above:-


Courtesy of Allan and Barbara Pease and your buddy Ariff.
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Posted on 10:15 PM

Flirting Tips : For Women

Filed Under () By Ariff at 10:15 PM















Tips For Flirting:

  • Be graceful and keep moving with confidence. Men are psychologically programmed to “Turn-On” on this kind of movement. That’s why strippers move the way the do and don’t do Waltz instead.
  • Look healthy- Please don't ever look like a zombie when you're flirting!
  • Don’t lower your chin (it makes you look scared) and definitely keep your chest out (I think you girls know why). It doesn’t seem to matter if you have small breasts – it’s the posture that counts. SO QUIT SLOUCHING!!!
  • Women choose the men that they want to approach them by flirting – most of the time anyway. If you want to see which men are “looking”, then watch out for the guy who is “scanning” the place. He may be alone, with his friends or even with another woman but his eyes will periodically “sweep” the room like a radar beam. And, just like a radar beam, he is looking for a signal. Its not hard to see this if you look carefully.

So, flirting is about being noticed and that means noticeable. Now there are 6 sensible things that really make a woman "stand out" than the rest:

  1. Colour - Don’t wear boring colours. The guy may not like what he sees but he will at least see you.
  2. Movement - Move! Be animated. Motion attracts the eye. When people are scared and timid they freeze. This implies that you are reluctant and unready. In short, you’re a poor opportunist for his time and efforts.
  3. Accessibility – The single biggest mistake that women make if they want to be approached is to appear difficult to approach. In a condition – no guy wants to try and “pick you up” while a group of your monkey-puss girlfriends watch him do his stuff. Men, on the whole, hate your girlfriends – they’re often bitchy, cruel, jealous, critical and very definitely get in the way. Where you sit, how you position yourself and what part of the environment you are in affects how accessible you are. The less accessible, the less you’ll be approached. Recognising accessibility is also a very powerful “man-thing”. Why would they want to waste their efforts on an inaccessible female? Come on girls...be smart! Boys are lazy.
  4. Eye Contact – Make eye contact with the guy(s) you’re interested in. To do this you have to be prepared to look around too – just enough but not to much or every lame and hopeless guys is going to be all over you. S0, remember this equation- no eye contact = no approaches....simple but brilliant!
  5. Be Different – Well, actually you should be just different enough to stand out. Just be different enough to stand out and be seen. No guy ever approached the invisible woman. Trust me I'm a guy too!
  6. Skin – When it comes to flirting, there’s no substitute for showing some skin. Men love skin – especially if it is smooth and unscarred. In their testosterone driven minds the equation is simple: Nice skin = availability. At a very basic level, men are programmed to look for naked skin – generally the more the merrier!

Courtesy of Ariff and Allan Peace

© Naughty Productions

Posted on 10:44 PM

Body Language: Chameleon Effect

Filed Under () By Ariff at 10:44 PM


This is the technique of consciously using your body language to mirror the subconscious movements and gestures of others - in a way that is subtle and unnoticed at their conscious level. This body language can include gestures, vocal tones, breathing rate, posture, attentiveness and even facial-expressions. It is important that you do not “copy cat” their motions as this will quickly become noticeable. The trick is to use similar body language postures or gestures approximately ten seconds after they have. It is harder to do than it sounds and requires practice to appear casual and natural. Mirroring is an important secret because it occurs naturally when people are building a positive rapport and by deliberately doing it you can send an encouraging message that strengthens the developing relationship.

According to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) experts, this technique will build trust and liking in the person with whom you are communicating. You can apparently measure the success of your mirroring if, after a while, you introduce gestures that the other person hasn’t used and then they start to subconsciously copy you. It is at this point you can express your own desires and intentions with the greatest likelihood of the other person being agreeable. Both conscious and subconscious mirroring is most often seen in romantic and business situations where the relationship that is being established is fundamental to the success of the endeavour.

(Ariff's Footnote: I decided to test this technique first to see if it really worked. I used it in several social situations and deliberately mirrored the actions of people I had just met (I did this during the first few days in A-levels class). In all cases the communication flowed easily and a positive rapport was established. In an equal number of instances I deliberately, but with subtlety, tried to use posture and gestures that were the opposite of those that our test subjects had just used. In all cases the communication was uncomfortable and in four out of five cases the person with whom I was communicating with left as soon as they could do so. I realize that our own autosuggestion may have influenced the outcome of the test but it was interesting and seemed to indicate that mirroring does have a definite effect.)


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Posted on 9:26 PM

Body Language: Your Voice

Filed Under () By Ariff at 9:26 PM


Many of you monkeys Don't realize that your voice is one of the most important tools in body language. Your voice by itself could make the listener feel confident or bad impression of you. More people will love you if you have good speech patterns...this goes to all men and women. For example, a high squeaky voice like a mouse can indicate anxiety and does not inspire confidence(unless its natural). A low voice indicates low stress and confidence. Something you should always watch for is how people react when you are speaking to them. Are they intent on what you say or do their eyes get 'glassy' and do they yawn?

Here are some rules that you may want to use to ensure good communication with others:

  • A low and slow voice commands attention and respect more than a fast squeaky voice. An evening of low and slow talk is an aphrodisiac.
  • Fast speech with sloppy pronunciation implies poor education and 'low class'.
  • Good pronunciation requires slightly slower speech but implies intelligence, education and 'high class'. It attracts people you will love being around.
  • Self-negating statements (Like: "I can never remember things like that.") cause the listener to lose confidence in you. People don't want to be around a loser.
  • A good vocabulary implies intelligence, education, and high class. Make them carry a dictionary!
  • Listening is more important than actually speaking. You will learn more! Practice being a good attentive listener and people will say you are a brilliant conversationalist.

Here are some rules that especially apply when you are flirting: This goes to everyone...

  • When you agree with what he/she says, give a little head nod and a verbal 'uh huh'. He/she will sense your interest and really appreciate that.
  • Watch the speaker's head movements. When speakers expect you to reply, they will unconsciously move their head slightly to indicate that it is your turn to speak. Also there will be a rise in the speaker's voice pitch. A similar rise also comes at the end of questions. You will show respect, and be appreciated, when you watch for a head movement and slight rise in pitch before you respond. Don't start talking before you get the signal he or she is done speaking!
  • When you speak, let your voice roll out under control, confident and relaxed. This attracts people who will admire you.
  • When replying to another speaker, respond with a positive and supportive statement to what they just said. "Yes, I like bananas, too!" This attracts people who will appreciate and admire you.
  • Validate them and their ideas - even if you don't agree. If you strongly disagree, move on to another subject. You can't change them and no need to lose a friend here.
  • When another speaker drops his or her voice at the end of a statement they are pretty well satisfied with what they said and ready to let it go. Don't you keep harping on that subject.
  • If a speaker holds their voice constant pitch at the end of a statement (eyes and hands stay as they are) they have more to say on that subject. Stand by, listen, and wait for more! Don't jump in on top of their words with your own comments until they are done speaking.
  • When you do speak, talk slowly and confidently. This will give you a little more time to form better responses and to say each word more precisely. This will improve your image as an educated, intelligent, and confident person. (You really are a masterwork in progress.)
Now This Is For The Guys...Sorry Gals But Its True....:

A deep voice indicates high testosterone level. To 'score' with a chick, try to be relaxed and deepen your voice so your testosterone level is evident to the females. Once you got this right, the female's DNA programming will without doubt...unconsciously make her more attracted to you. Take this as a good 'turn on'.

Trust me I use it all the time to guys and gals...this does not mean I'm gay!..its to guys its good for dominance and to ladies..its a matter of closing in the gap between them.


Hints for everyone:

  • Keep your statements short. Give the other person a chance to reply and you won't be a bore.
  • Minimize 'I' and 'you'. Use 'we', 'our', and 'us' abundantly in your discussions. Form a team right away.
  • Use plenty of facial expressions and hand gestures. Show that you are 'alive'. Let your 'kid' come out and have fun with the discussion.
  • Don't use a lot of these 'fillers' in your statements such as, "You know?" or "You know what I mean?". They don't know what you mean until you say it clearly!
  • Speak loud enough to be heard, especially in noisy environments and to older people. (It is OK to flirt with older people. Charity work is good karma.)
  • You may use laughter as punctuation to your statements but use it by itself and not when you are still saying the words. That is, don't mix the two so that the words are lost. Every word is a jewel so don't hide or lose any.
  • Do let your sense of humor shine and make it fun for people to be with you. Life is short so make it fun for them and yourself.


Courtesy of Ariff

Posted on 9:03 PM

Influence People By Creating A New World...

By Ariff at 9:03 PM















Convincing someone is a prestige art that requires powerful persuasive communication. Your thoughts mainly consist of your beliefs, emotions, and concepts. How you present yourself to others determines whether or not they listen or do what you tell them to do. This occurs within the first minute of conversation.


The Average Person

You are obviously AWARE of the conscious ways to speak to people:

  • Be animated
  • Talk about interesting information
  • Fluctuate your voice to avoid being monotone

However, very few people are AWARE of the subconscious ways to speak to people. Your mind consists of two parts, your subconscious and your conscious.

Conscious Mind

Your conscious mind is you being AWARE of everything going on around you during the current period of time. An example of your conscious mind at work is when you hold a telephone number in your memory long enough to make that call.

Subconscious Mind

Your subconscious mind is always working in the background. Your subconscious does things like run your body, run your emotions, and store old memories. Have you ever read about the benefits of using certain words? Or purposely shifting your body to build rapport with someone? This is because based on thousands studies on the human mind, subconsciously, people are wired to act in a pattern oriented way.

You’re obviously beginning to see the significance to communicating to someone’s subconscious mind rather than their conscious, aren’t you?

Embedded Commands:

These phrases compel you to take action or do it now. These phrases subconsciously give you a command or something to do. These are words that are sort of like ticking time bombs for the brain. They are 1-3 words that are within sentences and have a relatively powerful impact on your prospects decision making process.

For example: It seems like you clearly agreeing with what I’m telling you so let’s ACT NOW so I can help you get what you want in the time you need it…does that work for you?

This is a very simple pattern to catch on to. Keep in mind that when you say this out loud, you need to put a unique emphasis on your embedded command. Sooner or later, after much practice, you’ll begin to discover a difference on our prospect’s action. This command is very subliminal meaning that it will affect them subconsciously.

  • Buy it now
  • Do what I say
  • Sign here
  • Sign up today
  • Say yes
  • Do it now
  • Tell me yes
  • Sign the contract
  • Choose me
  • Trust me
  • Feel comfortable

Most people somewhat understand the concept behind embedded commands, but when it comes to using it effectively in real life conversation they fail. Why? Because as I stated earlier, your embedded commands must have a unique emphasis when said aloud. Some people tend to simply chicken out. As you begin to practice using embedded commands, use more authority and conviction in your voice as you say the commanding word. You can even add a slight pause before and after the command which is bit easier to do.

How Do You Create a New Reality?

The answer is simple. Increase their level of awareness by using the following phrases and words within your conversations which will allow the person you are communicating to pay attention to what you say.

Awareness Phrases

  • Listen carefully
  • Pay attention
  • Be aware
  • This part is important
  • This is where it gets interesting
  • Check this part out
  • Watch this closely

Awareness Words

  • Discover (ing) - Soon you’ll begin to discover new ways to make money
  • Achieve (ing) – After achieving success, you’ll want to learn how to go to the next level.
  • Start (ing) – If you start to think about what learning this will do to you, you’ll instantly become excited.
  • Experience (ing) – After experiencing how amazing it was to skydive, I felt as if I can do anything.
  • Imagine (ing) – Imagine learning these new ideas and applying them into your life.
  • Able to – You’ll be able to apply this into your conversation almost instantly.

These are some words you can use to influence someone to become aware of what you say. After your listeners start to experience the new level of awareness from your conversations, they’ll be more likely to do what you want or at least find you as an authoritative figure.

Yes, I understand that most people have seen these words or phrases and chances are, you have already used them in your day to day conversations. People use the language of creation all day everyday without knowing and thereby accidentally creating the response. Now that you’re aware of these words and phrases, you’ll be able to deliberately apply these tactics and create the responses whenever you want.

Courtesy of Big Dawg and Ariff- "its like making a world where YOU ARE THE KING"

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Posted on 7:47 AM

Quick Tips To Catch A Liar

By Ariff at 7:47 AM




















Alright, here we go. There are some very quick ways to telling when somebody is fibbing or not. (I like the word fibbing. Don’t know why, sounds more fun don’t you agree?). So yes, fibbing.

So here we go, put a lot of these together and you will become a pretty good lie detector like me...lol


1. Touching the mouth, lips, ear, or nose. When we are children and we tell a fib, we unconsciously send our hands to cover up our mouths. Which is why when a child is lying they will clamp their hands over their mouths, they realize that something evil is coming out of their mouth and they try to stop it.


However, as we get older we learn to control our hand movements. So that’s why a teenager when they are lying will sometimes rub their lips, grownups tend to touch their nose (called The Pinocchio Effect,) tug on their ear’s etc… Actually Johnny Depp happens to have a great tell that every time he is lying he itches his ear by slightly hitting it from the back. (Picked that up when I watched an interview with him…I later found out from a friend that works with him that he had been lying in the interview.)


2. Keeping eye contact- This is an interesting one. Many people believe that when we lie we actually break eye contact. But this is simply not true. Ask somebody what color their house is and watch as their eyes flit around searching for the necessary information. But when somebody lies, they have no reason to go looking for that information within their brains and will therefore hold eye contact.


Now, I would like to point how hard telling lies is. Some people, when they are lying will have different eye movements, (which I will get into in another article called, “Lying and Eye Accessing Cues” I am very original at coming up with names for my articles). Some people, will break eye contact, other people won’t. That’s why it is so important to establish a baseline!


3. Not making facial expressions- Think of a crooked car salesman. What comes to mind? Probably a guy in a tweed jacket with a big smile on his face. The truth is that we believe that somebody with a big smile on their face is lying when really the opposite is true! When we lie, we make as little facial expressions as possible since we don’t want to give away any possible indication to the person we are talking with that we are lying.


And here is the funny part. If you are actually lying to somebody, don’t make any facial expressions! Since we make the mistake of thinking that somebody who is lying is going to put on a big smile.


4. Excessive blinking- The amount that we blink is an indication of how much stress we are under. This is why when you are tired you tend to blink a lot, and it is the same thing when you are lying. You end up blinking a lot which is an indication of higher pulse rates.


Those are some quick tips that will allow you to start being able to tell whether somebody is telling the truth or not. In later articles we will be talking about eye accessing cues, telling through language, telling whether a story is true or not, explaining concepts such as leakage, facial expression, and microexpression. Basically everything you need so you are never lied to again!


Courtesy of Ariff... :p © Naughty Productions

Posted on 10:17 PM

The 7 Universal Microexpression

By Ariff at 10:17 PM







Posted on 10:03 PM

5 Reasons Why You Should Smile More

By Ariff at 10:03 PM

This is my first composition....so enjoy!=)

A smile is one of the most simple, inexpensive and wonderful things in the world.

Still, often some monkeys forget about this one powerful action while we get lost in the details of today and tomorrow.

Here are 5 reasons why smiling as often as you can will put more positivity into your life.

1. You will get a boost of happiness – try forcing yourself to smile for thirty seconds right now. The great feelings that make you smile works in reverse too. By making yourself smile, no matter how you feel, your body will start to release all those wonderful chemicals that makes you feel happy. Try it right now and feel the difference.

2. A smile changes your state – if you feel frustrated, angry or bored a smile changes your emotional state. And a positive state is not just more fun but also opens up to other possibilities in your mind. You will see the world differently through a happier lens. And then you can start building on that to have a string of positive actions and interactions with other people throughout the day.

3. A smile changes other people’s state – walking into a room or up to the counter in a store with a smile on your face can make a world of difference. People will smile back at you and be more helpful and any social tension or awkwardness will melt away. And your interactions will be more open, relaxed and filled with fun and possibilities.

4. Well, why shouldn’t you smile? – when choosing between a frown, a blank expression or a smile the last choice seems to be the most productive and positive choice, doesn’t it? Sure, often you will forget to smile or maybe you just don’t feel like it. But if you try to remember it and use it more often you will soon develop a new habit.

5. It’s easier to smile than doing the opposite – you actually use less muscles while smiling than while frowning or making an angry face. Well, that’s probably what you have heard at least. But still, if you start smiling more your smiling muscles will soon become stronger than your frowning muscles. And it will become easier and easier to smile than doing the opposite.

Courtesy of your buddy Ariff and Henrik Edberg

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