Body Language : Tips for Reading 'Her'

In response to the previous post, I've accumulated 7 ways to read a female's body language...So guys if you have been reading my posts, this will be your favourite for sure.

Want to know what she is really thinking and feeling? How to read her body language gestures to get it right? Understanding her body language has never been made easier although it may trigger 'The Naughty Alarm' but its for your own advantage.

1: Her chest : When indulging in foreplay, a pinkish flush will colour the skin of her chest (if its exposed of course...don't go and do somrthing stupid!), this is known as a “sex flush”. This occurs as a result of changes in her blood pressure and circulation, as well as her respiration and pulse rates. This is her subtle way of telling you that you could get lucky (as in 'getting' her) if you keep on with what you are doing. Another positive sign that you are doing it right is when her breasts start to enlarge. Women’s breasts will increase by as much as 25% when they are sexually aroused...so if you are hyper-observant, you can see this. But try not to get caught!

2: Her pupils : A woman’s pupils will dilate when she is stimulated by you. Subconsciously, her body is made to want to see more of whatever is pleasing her visually. To do this, her irises have to let in more light. At this point she is also starting to look hotter to you as well, as research has shown that guys are more attracted to girls with larger pupils. A win-win situation!

3: Her eyelashes. Look her in the eyes for a minute. She should be blinking about 15 times per minute. Research has shown that the you look in her eyes, the more likely you'll get a second or third date!

4: Her fingernails : Body-focused repetitive behaviours such as nail biting and cuticle picking are strong signs of anxiety or depression in women but not as much as men. Try not to nag her to stop; this can just make it worse. Try taking her hand, gently squeeze or massage it, and then keep holding it. You should be able to feel the tension leave her hand.

5: The Hair Flick : When a woman starts playing with her hair she is sending strong sexual body language signals that she is available. Stroking her hair is a good sign, but the best of the lot is the hair flick. This is said to be the surest signal that she is sexually attracted to you.

6: Her Neck: Stroking her neck or playing with her necklace are also very strong flirting body language signs, By doing these things she is drawing attention to her breasts. Throats and necks are lover’s only zones, and if she is also arching her neck the signal is even stronger.

7: Her Mouth: When a woman starts to think sexual thoughts, she touches her mouth. Licking her lips, sucking on the straw or spoon suggestively, and sticking things in her mouth are all indicators that she could be up for it. Eating, drinking, and smoking faster are also great body language gestures indicative of erotic thoughts.

Girls...if you are reading this, please don't think that you can control it...because you can't. Neither the boys!

Adapted and modified from The Definitive Book of Body Language.

Written by your buddy Ariff with appreciation to Allan and Barbara Pease.

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Flirting Tips : For Men pt.1

Every guy needs some flirting tips whether you/we/they like it or not. You wouldn’t be looking at this post if you weren’t interested. So do yourself a favour and read it properly.


Known or Unknown

Flirting will either take place with someone you already know or with someone you’ve never met before. Both situations have their pros and cons. It’s quite common for a friendship to suddenly go sexual or naughty and it is also just as likely that you’ll meet someone at 9.00pm in a nightclub and be in bed with them by 1.00am. Sometimes people you know will start flirting to test the water and sometimes people you don’t know will flirt with you just to check that they’re still attractive(I have personally seen or heard this before) . When it comes to flirting and body language it’s a game with some very complex rules but here’s equation (again) :-

– you don’t play = you can’t win.

If you already know someone …

There are advantages and disadvantages of flirting with people that you already know. The key to the success of your flirting often depends on what the other person secretly thinks about you.... *We know this guy that has been feeling the hots for a woman since they were at school together. One day she looked over at this guy and a 'switch' flipped in her head and she started broadcasting to him. He responded and they got married a little while ago. What triggered her to suddenly find him attractive?... Well he’d just turned 35 and had decided to join one of those clubs where you do “stand-up” comedy. Turns out he was good at it. Suddenly she saw him in a whole new way.
When we already know somebody, we risk losing whatever relationship we have with that person if we switch tracks. Naturally, people are reluctant to lose what they already have.

The key to attracting and flirting with somebody that you already know is to change the way they see you. This can require dramatic action (dramatic as in being very animatic). Say you’ve been as boring and inactive like a couch potato for ten years and suddenly take up sky diving then you’ll certainly get peoples attention! A positive aspect of flirting with somebody that you already know is that you probably have established a degree of trust (read previous entry for more info) with that person. This makes your efforts seem more sincere and effortless (if you are persistent of course..)

If it’s a stranger …

On the whole we would say that it is easier to flirt with a stranger than with a friend. Strangers have to judge you on first impressions and how you project yourself. You are a blank canvass that can be painted in the colours most suitable to the occasion. In short, you have the luxury of re-inventing yourself (learn from people's history if you can). On the downside, there is probably very little trust.

* This story I recap from my friend's story...summarized of course! I'm not insane you know.

Part two will be posted soon...so hang on!


Thanks to Sarah (not real name) for letting me post your story

Written with courtesy from your buddy Ariff

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FlirtingTips : Women (Advanced)

The Hair Tug / Glance and Look Down / Knee point

Chest Out / Show Skin A Bit / Tilt and Smile

Glance and Look Down : This is the “killer” flirting signal. You’ve made eye contact with that guy who's “scanning” and who you’d like to approach you. You give him a hint of a mischievous smile, an interested glance, and then look down (Not away). Gracely adjust your posture so that you’re pointing towards him. Slightly arch your back so you emphasize your chest. Don’t over do it or you’ll seem awkward and, dare we say it, desperate.

Three Strikes and Out : Quite often your first flirting signal won’t be enough. What’s going on in the guy’s head is this. “Oh my god, she’s interested. Is she? Did I just imagine that? Oh Hell, look at all her friends watching. I’m feeling good that she’s interested but do I actually want to do this? Did I just imagine this?....This thoughts are universal and it happens all the time.

So now you have to repeat your “look” so that he gets the message that he’s not in fantasy land. If he still does nothing then you can try a third attempt. By now (within two minutes) if he’s a confident male he should be coming over to you. If he isn’t then he probably isn’t good “mate” material. In short, where flirting is concerned – it’s three strikes and out. You’ll be better off investing your interest elsewhere. One final thought in defense of the guys is this: Girls tease and practice where as most guys are for real. Girls that reject a guy often go up in the estimation of their friends (they have high standards) whereas a guy that fails always goes down in the estimation of his friends (loser). Guys have learnt that even if all the signals are “right” they can still be rejected.

The approach : So now he’s coming over to you. Your flirting has worked! He’ll probably move slowly and look for reassurance from you. At any time he can turn away and bypass you if he feels that the “feel” isn’t right. Then you blew it. If you’re with friends then they’ll have noticed your “play” and if he turns away then you lose. As he walks over you need to increase your smile and open your posture to welcome him. Both you and he know that this is literally the first step. As he nears you it is critical that you allow him some personal space. That means adjusting your posture to exclude those around you and focus on him. That is if you want this contact to work. Woman often change their minds as a man approaches and you can reject him once he’s made contact or if he is obviously not “mate” material. If you’re a woman then trust your instincts as he approaches. Watch out for weird-walks, frozen smiles, glassy eyes and guys that keep looking at their buddies. So, if you’ve changed your mind then turn away from him before he arrives and with luck he’ll get the message and won’t even try. Reminder : This is the only time where the guy is in the negative position. So, if you really like this guy, stay onto him until he is close enough to talk.

The Contact : So now you’ve made contact and you’ve decided that he’s safe and you like him enough to explore this further. He’s clearly shown his interest in you by coming over but you still need to continue radiating plenty of female flirting signals or he may lose interest and start “scanning” again. If you are genuinely attracted to the guy then many of these may come naturally. However, for lots of people the act of flirting or projecting body language sex signals does not come easily. This is something of a mystery but is true. He’s going to want to see some of the following:

1. The Hair Tug




2. The Body+ Knee Point




3. The Shoe Dangle




4. The Neck Stroke




5. The Tilt and Smile

See Pics Above:-

Courtesy of Allan and Barbara Pease and your buddy Ariff.

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Flirting Tips : For Women

Tips For Flirting:

• Be graceful and keep moving with confidence. Men are psychologically programmed to “Turn-On” on this kind of movement. That’s why strippers move the way the do and don’t do Waltz instead.
• Look healthy- Please don't ever look like a zombie when you're flirting!
• Don’t lower your chin (it makes you look scared) and definitely keep your chest out (I think you girls know why). It doesn’t seem to matter if you have small breasts – it’s the posture that counts. SO QUIT SLOUCHING!!!
• Women choose the men that they want to approach them by flirting – most of the time anyway. If you want to see which men are “looking”, then watch out for the guy who is “scanning” the place. He may be alone, with his friends or even with another woman but his eyes will periodically “sweep” the room like a radar beam. And, just like a radar beam, he is looking for a signal. Its not hard to see this if you look carefully.

So, flirting is about being noticed and that means noticeable. Now there are 6 sensible things that really make a woman "stand out" than the rest:

1. Colour - Don’t wear boring colours. The guy may not like what he sees but he will at least see you.
2. Movement - Move! Be animated. Motion attracts the eye. When people are scared and timid they freeze. This implies that you are reluctant and unready. In short, you’re a poor opportunist for his time and efforts.
3. Accessibility – The single biggest mistake that women make if they want to be approached is to appear difficult to approach. In a condition – no guy wants to try and “pick you up” while a group of your monkey-puss girlfriends watch him do his stuff. Men, on the whole, hate your girlfriends – they’re often bitchy, cruel, jealous, critical and very definitely get in the way. Where you sit, how you position yourself and what part of the environment you are in affects how accessible you are. The less accessible, the less you’ll be approached. Recognising accessibility is also a very powerful “man-thing”. Why would they want to waste their efforts on an inaccessible female? Come on girls...be smart! Boys are lazy.
4. Eye Contact – Make eye contact with the guy(s) you’re interested in. To do this you have to be prepared to look around too – just enough but not to much or every lame and hopeless guys is going to be all over you. S0, remember this equation- no eye contact = no approaches....simple but brilliant!
5. Be Different – Well, actually you should be just different enough to stand out. Just be different enough to stand out and be seen. No guy ever approached the invisible woman. Trust me I'm a guy too!
6. Skin – When it comes to flirting, there’s no substitute for showing some skin. Men love skin – especially if it is smooth and unscarred. In their testosterone driven minds the equation is simple: Nice skin = availability. At a very basic level, men are programmed to look for naked skin – generally the more the merrier!

Courtesy of Ariff and Allan Peace

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