The Hair Tug / Glance and Look Down / Knee point
Chest Out / Show Skin A Bit / Tilt and Smile
Glance and Look Down : This is the “killer” flirting signal. You’ve made eye contact with that guy who's “scanning” and who you’d like to approach you. You give him a hint of a mischievous smile, an interested glance, and then look down (Not away). Gracely adjust your posture so that you’re pointing towards him. Slightly arch your back so you emphasize your chest. Don’t over do it or you’ll seem awkward and, dare we say it, desperate.
Three Strikes and Out : Quite often your first flirting signal won’t be enough. What’s going on in the guy’s head is this. “Oh my god, she’s interested. Is she? Did I just imagine that? Oh Hell, look at all her friends watching. I’m feeling good that she’s interested but do I actually want to do this? Did I just imagine this?....This thoughts are universal and it happens all the time.
So now you have to repeat your “look” so that he gets the message that he’s not in fantasy land. If he still does nothing then you can try a third attempt. By now (within two minutes) if he’s a confident male he should be coming over to you. If he isn’t then he probably isn’t good “mate” material. In short, where flirting is concerned – it’s three strikes and out. You’ll be better off investing your interest elsewhere. One final thought in defense of the guys is this: Girls tease and practice where as most guys are for real. Girls that reject a guy often go up in the estimation of their friends (they have high standards) whereas a guy that fails always goes down in the estimation of his friends (loser). Guys have learnt that even if all the signals are “right” they can still be rejected.
The approach : So now he’s coming over to you. Your flirting has worked! He’ll probably move slowly and look for reassurance from you. At any time he can turn away and bypass you if he feels that the “feel” isn’t right. Then you blew it. If you’re with friends then they’ll have noticed your “play” and if he turns away then you lose. As he walks over you need to increase your smile and open your posture to welcome him. Both you and he know that this is literally the first step. As he nears you it is critical that you allow him some personal space. That means adjusting your posture to exclude those around you and focus on him. That is if you want this contact to work. Woman often change their minds as a man approaches and you can reject him once he’s made contact or if he is obviously not “mate” material. If you’re a woman then trust your instincts as he approaches. Watch out for weird-walks, frozen smiles, glassy eyes and guys that keep looking at their buddies. So, if you’ve changed your mind then turn away from him before he arrives and with luck he’ll get the message and won’t even try. Reminder : This is the only time where the guy is in the negative position. So, if you really like this guy, stay onto him until he is close enough to talk.
The Contact : So now you’ve made contact and you’ve decided that he’s safe and you like him enough to explore this further. He’s clearly shown his interest in you by coming over but you still need to continue radiating plenty of female flirting signals or he may lose interest and start “scanning” again. If you are genuinely attracted to the guy then many of these may come naturally. However, for lots of people the act of flirting or projecting body language sex signals does not come easily. This is something of a mystery but is true. He’s going to want to see some of the following:
- The Hair Tug
- The Body+ Knee Point
- The Shoe Dangle
- The Neck Stroke
- The Tilt and Smile
Courtesy of Allan and Barbara Pease and your buddy Ariff.
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