Every guy needs some flirting tips whether you/we/they like it or not. You wouldn’t be looking at this post if you weren’t interested. So do yourself a favour and read it properly.
Known or Unknown
Known or Unknown
Flirting will either take place with someone you already know or with someone you’ve never met before. Both situations have their pros and cons. It’s quite common for a friendship to suddenly go sexual or naughty and it is also just as likely that you’ll meet someone at 9.00pm in a nightclub and be in bed with them by 1.00am. Sometimes people you know will start flirting to test the water and sometimes people you don’t know will flirt with you just to check that they’re still attractive(I have personally seen or heard this before) . When it comes to flirting and body language it’s a game with some very complex rules but here’s equation (again) :-
– you don’t play = you can’t win.
If you already know someone …
There are advantages and disadvantages of flirting with people that you already know. The key to the success of your flirting often depends on what the other person secretly thinks about you.... *We know this guy that has been feeling the hots for a woman since they were at school together. One day she looked over at this guy and a 'switch' flipped in her head and she started broadcasting to him. He responded and they got married a little while ago. What triggered her to suddenly find him attractive?... Well he’d just turned 35 and had decided to join one of those clubs where you do “stand-up” comedy. Turns out he was good at it. Suddenly she saw him in a whole new way.
When we already know somebody, we risk losing whatever relationship we have with that person if we switch tracks. Naturally, people are reluctant to lose what they already have.
The key to attracting and flirting with somebody that you already know is to change the way they see you. This can require dramatic action (dramatic as in being very animatic). Say you’ve been as boring and inactive like a couch potato for ten years and suddenly take up sky diving then you’ll certainly get peoples attention! A positive aspect of flirting with somebody that you already know is that you probably have established a degree of trust (read previous entry for more info) with that person. This makes your efforts seem more sincere and effortless (if you are persistent of course..)
If it’s a stranger …
On the whole we would say that it is easier to flirt with a stranger than with a friend. Strangers have to judge you on first impressions and how you project yourself. You are a blank canvass that can be painted in the colours most suitable to the occasion. In short, you have the luxury of re-inventing yourself (learn from people's history if you can). On the downside, there is probably very little trust.
* This story I recap from my friend's story...summarized of course! I'm not insane you know.
Part two will be posted soon...so hang on!
Thanks to Sarah (not real name) for letting me post your story
Written with courtesy from your buddy Ariff
There are advantages and disadvantages of flirting with people that you already know. The key to the success of your flirting often depends on what the other person secretly thinks about you.... *We know this guy that has been feeling the hots for a woman since they were at school together. One day she looked over at this guy and a 'switch' flipped in her head and she started broadcasting to him. He responded and they got married a little while ago. What triggered her to suddenly find him attractive?... Well he’d just turned 35 and had decided to join one of those clubs where you do “stand-up” comedy. Turns out he was good at it. Suddenly she saw him in a whole new way.
When we already know somebody, we risk losing whatever relationship we have with that person if we switch tracks. Naturally, people are reluctant to lose what they already have.
The key to attracting and flirting with somebody that you already know is to change the way they see you. This can require dramatic action (dramatic as in being very animatic). Say you’ve been as boring and inactive like a couch potato for ten years and suddenly take up sky diving then you’ll certainly get peoples attention! A positive aspect of flirting with somebody that you already know is that you probably have established a degree of trust (read previous entry for more info) with that person. This makes your efforts seem more sincere and effortless (if you are persistent of course..)
If it’s a stranger …
On the whole we would say that it is easier to flirt with a stranger than with a friend. Strangers have to judge you on first impressions and how you project yourself. You are a blank canvass that can be painted in the colours most suitable to the occasion. In short, you have the luxury of re-inventing yourself (learn from people's history if you can). On the downside, there is probably very little trust.
* This story I recap from my friend's story...summarized of course! I'm not insane you know.
Part two will be posted soon...so hang on!
Thanks to Sarah (not real name) for letting me post your story
Written with courtesy from your buddy Ariff
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